sexless marriage Archives - Betrayal and Acrimony

The courtship began in high school and continued throughout graduate school, culminating on their tenth anniversary. When Dario asked for Nori’s hand in marriage, she said yes because he cried, and she felt sorry for him. When Nori glanced at the ring, she found it rather small for ten years of dating. Nori worked in the private sector, a staunch saver and frugal, unlike Dario who worked in the public sector and had little to show for it. As the higher income earner, Nori carried more financial responsibility and was fine with it. Nori never had any interest in an elaborate wedding reception. She preferred the simplicity of flying to vegas. Dario wanted bells and whistles with 150 of his closest friends. Dario secured the venue, DJ, writing of invitations, seating arrangements, limos, honeymoon, while Nori singlehandedly paid for everything. She was never mistaken for a happy bride. Playing along for Nori was routine. The evening following the wedding reception, Nori had no interest in consummating the marriage. While on the honeymoon, Nori realized she had made a grave mistake in marrying Dario. Outside of a long courtship, there was very little they shared. There was no intimacy during the honeymoon. Upon returning from the honeymoon, Nori wanted to pack her belongings and leave Dario. The only thing preventing Nori from leaving the marriage were the opinions of people. Nori believed she had no options. Appeasing her parents and societal norms outweighed anything she ever wanted.

Lola attended Julliard for piano garnering international recognition. Following several years on tour, she decided to settle down, and open her very own music school teaching piano. Lola taught piano for years while also being the lead pianist at the local church, where she met her husband. The church had a considerable congregation with multiple services and ministers. Lola and her husband had two beautiful boys to whom they were devoted. Her husband did well for himself, a great father, and provider. Lola believed in the institution of marriage however she was never attracted to or desired her husband. She habitually found herself in and out of love with countless men, which served as distractions. One of the ministers at the church was visibly smitten by Lola and never attempted to conceal it. The minister’s wife and mother in law were keenly aware of his affinity for Lola and never acknowledged her. Lola’s husband was also aware of how the minister looked at his wife and although unfounded, accused her of an affair. The truth was Lola was deeply enamored by the minister and obsessed with thoughts of him. Things did not appear to be going well in the minister’s household, as his wife stopped accompanying him to church services. Lola felt sermons were somehow directed to her, as they often mentioned remaining in loveless marriages for the sake of children. Lola was willing to leave her husband and children for the minister only if he divorced his wife and asked for her hand in marriage. Everyone in the congregation knew how the minister pined for Lola and presumed they were having an affair. Lola would drive past the minister’s home incognito to ascertain if he spent any time at home when he was not in the ministry. What she uncovered was, he spent an inordinate amount of time outside of the matrimonial home and the wife was residing in a separate residence. The only thing keeping Lola from having an affair with the minister was her concern he would not remain silent and tell her husband.

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